A List of Rose-Colored Microaggressions, Said With Love I was seventeen, and a stack of college brochures collected dust atop my bedroom vanity. I sat up against my headboard, eyeing them in the mirror—UCLA, UC Davis, Boston University, NYU. “What if I just applied to an HBCU instead?” I said into the phone. Historically Black … Continue reading Love Letters from My White Boyfriends
It has been a week since the 2016 Presidential election. I wish I could say that the dust has settled and I’m feeling optimistic, but that is so far from the case. I am not calm, and I am not settled. I’ve moved out of the silence of shock and into the mess of processing … Continue reading Dear White Christians: You’re Doing It Wrong
Every Thursday evening, I have a graduate school course, and every Thursday evening, I call my mother while on my way home from school. Normally dismissing the fact that I am driving as a topic not worth addressing, last Thursday my mom brought it up almost immediately. “Are you driving?” she asked with urgency. I … Continue reading “My Brother Might Become a Hashtag,” and Other Black Concerns
I had learned to say sorry for my own safety. To avoid verbal assault, polite rejection became second nature to me. In my experience, to be a single woman walking through the world meant to carry the word “sorry” in my purse alongside my lipstick and my pepper spray, just in case.
Rather than quietly dwelling on what I could have and should have done in the past, I am choosing to march forward. My white friends can either march with me, or they can shut the door and sleep in ignorant bliss.
As for me, I stay woke.