If you’re reading this, I assume you want to talk about consent. Here’s the first lesson: there’s no such thing as implied consent. Consent is often so cloaked in awkwardness or overly polite language – you’ve heard the one about a cup of tea, right? I mean, that’s great, and it’s helpful, but “Keep Calm … Continue reading Make Consent Sexy Again
We need to figure out how to work through those tough moments when we say and do racist stuff. Because it is going to happen, the question is – how are we going to respond? It’s not going to be easy, but I’m rooting for you.
Last week Charleena Lyles, called 911 to report a burglary. Lyles, a 30 year old pregnant woman was in treatment for what her family described as “mental health issues.” She held a knife in her hands as she answered the door for the police. The two police officers answering the call both discharged their … Continue reading Four Reasons We Can’t Talk About Community Police Relationships Without Talking About Mental Health
1 month. It’s been 1 month. And the bar has been set so low that I’m at a point where any day we don’t enter into nuclear war is a good day. When President Trump was still President-elect Trump, I went through an accelerated grieving process as he was not the candidate I had in … Continue reading What I’ve Learned from Talking With White People Since the Election
A List of Rose-Colored Microaggressions, Said With Love I was seventeen, and a stack of college brochures collected dust atop my bedroom vanity. I sat up against my headboard, eyeing them in the mirror—UCLA, UC Davis, Boston University, NYU. “What if I just applied to an HBCU instead?” I said into the phone. Historically Black … Continue reading Love Letters from My White Boyfriends
If you have made a promise to yourself that you are going to reach out to your Trump voting loved one – here are a few lessons we have learned that might help you navigate the upcoming conversations.