I know that there is no such thing as a perfect community. I am not searching for perfection. I’m searching for faithfulness, for intentionality and for a willingness to change and grow.
As couples therapist that primarily works with Christian couples I have seen how being raised in purity culture can ruin the sex life of christian couples. I’ve listen to couples who were told that sex is to be saved FOR marriage and information about sex is kept highly secretive. Who were raised to believe in … Continue reading Purity Culture Can Ruin the Sex Life of Christian Couples: A Therapist’s Perspective
As a 7 year old, I was usually allowed to dress myself. So I chose to run around with my hair in Jerhi curls, frayed blue jeans and a t-shirt. To the world, I looked like a girl, but in my heart, I was planning on growing up to be a man. This was long … Continue reading Allowing Children to Dress for Church in Ways That Embrace their Full Selves
Every three months or so, I delete all my dating apps and take a break. Sometimes it’s because the prospect of another bad date is emotionally crippling. Sometimes it’s because I’m busy with work, friends, hobbies, travelling, life. But a lot of the time, it’s because my faith is shifting faster than I can keep … Continue reading The Difficulties of Dating Online as a “Post-Evangelical Progressive Christian”
A lot of my recent writing and thoughts are about how I have a hard time being in spaces. I’m pulled in so many different directions. Being the child of immigrants and not knowing where my “home” is actually located has brought about a lot of mourning. I’m too American to fit into Indian spaces, … Continue reading A Deconstructed Poem to Help Reconstruct Your Sense of Being
Black Panther is a film by black people, for black people –– from all across the deeply beautiful spectrum that is the African continent and its vast diaspora. It is a film for them and their ancestors. For we who are white, I think it’s appropriate to consider a few things when it comes to … Continue reading 9 Things White People Need to Know Before Going to Black Panther