Instead of assimilation, I want to see my friends flourish, able to navigate the new waters they’ve been placed in, and able to celebrate and acknowledge their entire identity. I want them to code-switch well.
As an individual with an OCD/anxiety diagnosis I have functioned as a wife, sister, daughter, friend, community member, and teacher. I haven’t lost my job. I haven’t gotten a divorce. My friends and family haven’t abandoned me. AND, I KNOW with out a doubt that my story has been used to help liberate others to tell theirs.
May 15, 2016 marked the 132nd commencement of my alma mater, the great Morehouse College of Atlanta, Georgia. 379 young men – among them 2 Marshall Scholars, 1 Rhodes scholar, 3 Valedictorians – future doctors, lawyers, judges, engineers, entrepreneurs, entertainers, pastors, politicians, bankers and game-changers. World Changers. It could not have been a more beautiful […]
I remember the first time I quietly admitted to my college Humanities classmate that I was a Christian. My apologetic tones, my carefully worded defenses – to put it nicely, I was disoriented, but honestly, I was terrified and panicking. Identifying as Christian was only half the problem though; the other half was being Chinese. […]
In a recent conversation about women in tech, an acquaintance who supported more women in the field described us as more “personable” and less “aggressive.” It’s great that my friend supports diversity, but their reasons bothered me. There’s a difference between a descriptive view of the world as it is and asserting that this is […]
As a child, I always over analyzed things. I didn’t realize how abnormal this was until two years ago. I don’t mean I over analyzed things like, “Did I choose the right answer?” for a test in school. I over analyzed EVERYTHING. I said sorry ALL OF THE TIME for things that weren’t even really […]