These 100% sex free sleepovers were absolutely off limits in the conservative christian community we were raised in but were the key to my survival during those dark days. He likely saved my life but this came at a price; my depression and our sleepovers led to us losing our church community.
Dear Thursday Welcoming Church, Today is such an intimate day in the journey to the cross. Having a meal with friends in a home and engaging in foot washing is about as connected as you can be. I’ve learned that this is a key piece of the Christian story – intimacy and connection. When we … Continue reading A Letter to Thursday Welcoming, Friday Complicit, & Saturday Grieving Churches
I spend a whole lot of time talking about blackness. I talk about my blackness, my friends’ blackness, my family’s blackness, blackness in America, blackness as it relates to White America, blackness (or the lack thereof) in spiritual spaces—the list could go on for miles. Along with all this talk about blackness also comes the … Continue reading Forced Assimilation Is White-Washing, and I Won’t Be Complicit
In Christmas and Advent music, both secular and spiritual, there is a theme of homesickness and longing. “I’ll be home for Christmas, you can count on me.” “Oh there’s no place like home for the holidays.” “Oh come, oh come Emmanuel, and ransom captive Israel.” “the hopes and fears of all the years are met … Continue reading Homesick for Justice this Christmas
If you’re reading this, I assume you want to talk about consent. Here’s the first lesson: there’s no such thing as implied consent. Consent is often so cloaked in awkwardness or overly polite language – you’ve heard the one about a cup of tea, right? I mean, that’s great, and it’s helpful, but “Keep Calm … Continue reading Make Consent Sexy Again
Last month, my white friend apologized for a crime she committed eighteen years ago. “Suzie,” she said, using the nickname given to me by my elementary school peers, “I often think about how I used to make a spectacle out of your hair. I just wanted to say that I’m sorry for how that may … Continue reading Reparations Can Look Like Two Words: “I’m Sorry”